You are Worth the Wait

Many people ask me why I wrote my book. After all, I’m not a sex therapist or a counselor. It was my experience dating and meeting other singles that motivated me to write. Repeatedly I was surprised by how confused and discouraged people were – men and women alike. One of the most common observations I had was that people did not know this simple truth – they were worth the wait.

People often are confused by the title of my book, Worth Waiting For: Sane Sex for Singles. They think it refers to abstinence (although then the title would have to be No Sex for Singles, wouldn’t it?) What I’m suggesting is that they postpone physical intimacy, letting emotional intimacy develop first. While people don’t object to this approach in theory, and many admit to preferring it, they fear that the relationship will end because the other party won’t be willing to wait. I admit that this is a possibility. But think about it – if that’s the case, is this a relationship worth keeping in the long run?

The truth is that you are a treasure in every sense. You’re worth getting to know, and you have a right to know well the people with whom you choose to be intimate – in any sense. If someone doesn’t see you that way, then that’s their inability to recognize your value. You deserve to be with someone discerning enough to appreciate who you are. Your truth is this: you are worth the wait!