Your Dating Intentions for 2012

For many of us, January means a fresh start. This was particularly true for me in 2007. In the spring of 2006, I had set the intention to meet the love of my life by the end of the year. This wasn’t a date I pulled out of the air; I’d been doing my inner work and just completed the seven-week process outlined by Katherine Woodward Thomas in her wonderful book, Calling in the One. But despite my best efforts, it didn’t happen, and I spent the holidays single – again.

After reflecting on my experience and beliefs over the holidays, I decided not to give up. I acknowledged that I had made progress and vowed to continue. I recommitted to having only sane sex, no matter how long it took. On January 13, 2007, I met Roger. By Valentine’s Day, I knew he was the one. This may sound quick, but Roger said he knew the day we met.

So where are you this January? If you’re single, but would like not to be, set your intention. I highly recommend Thomas’ process. In the seventh week, she has you list the things you’d like to have in a partner. Then she calls on you to be those things first. It’s a misconception that we should look for someone to complete us. Do you want a partner with missing parts? Look for someone to complement you, not complete you. Be specific and write it down. Believe it’s possible, because it is. If you have doubts, read the story of Roger’s and me in Worth Waiting For: Sane Sex for Singles.

Happy New Year!