Will I Ever Have a Second (or Third) Date? – Part Two

So how do we handle not being called for another date because we weren’t willing to have sex so early in the relationship? Besides keeping the perspective I discussed last time, here are some things that worked for me:

• Continue to be active. Attend concerts, visit museums, get involved with your favorite charity, or join a hiking group.

• Search out new singles venues. Ask your single friends for ideas and give a group you gave up on a while ago another try. People become newly single all the time, so while groups tend to have some long-term regulars, most get new faces all the time.

• Try something you thought you never would, such as speed dating or Internet dating. Just don’t abandon the commitments you’ve made to yourself about the kind of dating experience you want.

• Pay attention to who you spend time with. Avoid single friends who are discouraged or have given up. Seek out your biggest fans and give yourself an ego boost.

• Remember that no sex is better than bad sex. Many of us have been there, so remind yourself of that experience when you get impatient. The solution is not to try what you already know does not work!

• Use others’ success stories to keep hope alive. I describe of my dating experiences and the highlights of my dating relationship with Roger, my husband and the love of my life, in Worth Waiting For: Sane Sex for Singles.

What ideas do you have? I’d love to hear what has worked for you.